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Inner self talk is critical to success in life.

December 2, 2015

Finding your voice.

Past voices….

As usual, Toastmasters never ceases to inspire….

Using a style of writing that I’ve used before, and tying in to my ending, I will tell you where I am headed with this piece of writing….to My goals (please use this as a work-through (or ‘workshop’) to achieve whatever happen to be YOUR goals! This is meant to INSPIRE YOU! LOL). I want to share how important self-talk can be to success in life….

I promise to get you there reasonably quickly via past voices (negative ones of course) that my Toastmaster mentor Dawna (short form To-rmentor? No, I digress)…I will keep her last name private, but she does exist and has inspired many) was able to work through…given her near-death experience. Yes, near-death. Don’t wait for life to take you there before you take life where you want to go!

Come, now let us work through this together. Dawna’s Toastmaster workshop (Jan 2015) took us through a time long ago in her life, which still resonated slightly in her mind. We could see that she still had a little bit more work to do (as far as positive self-talk was concerned).

Years back, it was the teacher’s voice (Miller) that spoke to her and compared her negatively to her sister, older to her, and better at many things. This left her in a wake of comparisons made by other teachers who invariably knew her sister and made negative inferences too….

Lesson: ignore the negative voices in life (the ones that don’t fit in with a healthy self-image of yourself). For your benefit, and to personalize this story a bit more, here is an excerpt from the handout that Dawna provided us, so you get the point…idea is to work through your negative voices, so put this piece into practice, will ya! Do this by answering italicized questions….or absorbing the presented information to improve your thinking. Here are the excerpts (italicized):

My Mr. Miller is….

‘Certainly not as good as your sister are you?’  (This had a huge impact on Dawna’s life…  She gave up – she quit! Lesson: don’t listen to negative voices, DON’T QUIT! EV-ER! This is when you go Lalalalala in your head! As a child, or as an adult. Don’t listen! LOL.

In retrospect, what should Dawna (read ‘this could be any one of us, but we will use Dawna as our guinea-pig test person as per her workshop) have done differently? (Folks, this is where you are supposed to THINK and come up with some positive solutions – for the rusty, just substitute any positive affirmation)

‘It’s a product of what I did!  It’s my best work ever!’  Remember, whatever you have created (at school, work, or play), is PERSONAL expression and it is NOT – NOT to be compared with others….even (or especially) when you are a teacher (read mentor, parent, older respected sibling et al).

My nurse Amanda is…I should explain; nurse Amanda was the one who Dawna first heard say ‘we didn’t think you would survive!’ when Dawna ended up in the hospital due to serious stress related conditions. The italicized portion below will explain how she internalized this statement. (Backdrop: Shakespeare – remember, ‘nothing is good or bad, thinking makes it so!’)

Dawna: through self-induced stress…. She was barely conscious.  Stressed.  Exhausted. She spent three weeks in a hospital!  Nurse Amanda: ‘Dawna, we didn’t think you would survive!’

So…Dawna felt she was not supposed to be here! (Yes – she meant on earth)… She stopped having fun.  It was a ‘Wow’ experience – in a very negative way!

My Jennifer is…again, this bears explanation…in Dawna’s workshop, Jennifer was a good buddy and best friend who helped her realize the positives in life; she offered Dawna heart-felt and sincere encouragement and helped her heal from her negative thinking and cloudy past.

My cheer-leading team: Who is yours? For example, one of mine is: Shelley U., David L., and Isabelle H.  They are my encouragers and I probably owe them a debt of gratitude. Not probably, I do. Thank the people that believe and encourage you….

Lesson:

Shakespeare:

‘ Nothing is good or bad… thinking makes it so….’

Now, as per Dawna’s workshop….we are going back and reliving those moments in life, (we all have them) using a NEW perspective and the introspective that Dawna provided us:

My future voices…

If I could go back to Mr. Miller I would….  Have the wisdom I now have, with conviction….

I now choose to tell myself….  ‘Nothing is good or bad thinking makes it so.’

If I could go back to my nurse Amanda I would….

Use more positive affirmations, and change the (negative) messages in my head. I’d meditate, be more healthy, associate with positive people, stay healthy, and have more purpose in life.  Live a renewed life as a second chance….for living in greater abundance!

I now choose to tell myself….my affirmations….

‘Nothing is good or bad thinking makes it so.’

If I could go back to my Jennifer I would

Thank her!

Realize ‘they’ (the negative ones) don’t know me….  hence they Gotta be wrong.

Watch serials Buddha and Suits. (I love them!)

My leadership voice…

I need to tell Trish P that she is quick and decisive.

I need to tell Kalida….thank you!

I need to tell Agee….hey! Thanks for being you!

Lesson:

Inner self talk is crucial to success in life.

BIG take-away from this workshop: How to turn negative talk into something positive.

PEOPLE, your self-talk is really important! It can ultimately be damaging or life-enhancing. At least be a good ‘Buddhist’ and ‘take the middle road’ and don’t be too hard on yourselves. (Talk out your negatives out loud to see if they sound ‘right’ or completely off the wall!)

In sum, Donna was shy and timid….  Her sister was an athletic and an academic star.  Jen was a best friend and star athlete.  Donna was part of a big family of children who were special from top to bottom yet Donna felt stuck in the middle, forgotten and unimportant.  Birth order can be determinative of how you feel – if you let it! Donna felt like someone stuck in the middle.

To overcome her difficulties though, she changed her mind set and the way she talked to herself….

Here’s one final positive thought for us to all take away…. to be more mindful of, and kinder and gentler with ourselves… what Donna learned from a positive role model, mentor and good friend….

Her friends said that though she was not the end pieces in her large family of siblings…she was the peanut butter…. the jam that made the whole sandwich sweet! (Aww!’ So sweet! No pun intended.)

So be good to yourself, and everyone else will too! We can be our own worst enemies, or our own best friends. It just takes a mental adjustment! You know….

Inner Self-talk can be critical to success in life!

Nilesh Shreedhar.

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Profound lesson learned from Darren Lacroix. (And Jim Rohn)

August 24, 2015

Speech giver: Darren Lacroix. (Toastmasters speaker, comedian, motivational speaker and general all-round super-hero good guy).

Organization: Toastmasters.org (International) at TM International Conference: August 13-16, 2015.

Venue: Caesar’s Palace, Las Vegas, U.S.A.

Purpose of this post (Acronym: R O S E):

  1. To Retain this valuable information for posterity.
  2. To Offer inspiration to people.
  3. To Share the wisdom gleaned from motivational and inspirational speech givers at such events.
  4. To Effect positive changes in the world.

This short speech (I think I actually may have shortened it to its essence), was given by Darren Lacroix, Key note speaker at Caesar’s Palace during the just completed International Toastmasters Conference in Las Vegas, U.S.A. I’m not even sure that it had a title, or if, in giving you the title, due to its depth, conciseness and clarity, would just give away the purpose of this post! He in turn, learned the lesson from Jim Rohn….

Darren is a popular motivational speaker in his own right (StageTimeUniversity.com) and his information is at the same time profound as it is inspirational in that it allows people to move ahead due to its clarity, purpose and wisdom.

Anyhow, this is what I learned at the above venue from Darren Lacroix (think about it for a minute or two):

You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.

Now that should cause you to think about who you think about, why you think the way you do, and even more importantly, why you are not achieving what you want to in life! Now that’s worth thinking about! Maybe even about those ’crabs’ in the bucket, that won’t let you out for whatever reasons, including insecurities of their own.

Maybe you should reconsider who you would like to spend most of your time with. In my view, this includes the books (‘friends’) you read, and the social media interactions (mine include Twitter, Facebook, and WordPress) that you ‘associate’ with. These can be wholly positive or detrimental to your future put in the above light.

Why not make wiser choices about how and with whom you spend your valuable time? Choose carefully!

Best wishes,

Nilesh Shreedhar.

NeilShreedhar’s Blog: https://neilshreedhar.wordpress.com

Jeffley’s “Dial it Up!” (to Life).

August 21, 2015

Speech giver: James Jeffley

Organization: Toastmasters.org (International) at TM International Conference: August 13-16, 2015.

Venue: Caesar’s Palace, Las Vegas, U.S.A.

Purpose of this post (Acronym: R O S E):

  1. To Retain this valuable information for posterity.
  2. To Offer inspiration to people.
  3. To Share the wisdom gleaned from motivational and inspirational speech givers at such events.
  4. To Effect positive changes in the world.

This speech (“Up Yours!”) was given by James Jeffley, speech contest participant at Caesar’s Palace during the just completed International Toastmasters Conference in Las Vegas, U.S.A.

Dial it up. James Jeffley. Life is like a thermostat….up yours. Dial up your thermostat. Find Peace and greater consciousness. Up yourself. There are tools to dial oneself up….

On the 18th Mar 2015, he was talking to his sister who called. What’s up? Then came the cold, hard facts….dad passed….He fell to the ground….

Even as minister, sometimes he needs help too….having learned through difficult experiences the purpose of his speech was to provide some tools. He himself was able to dial himself up…refocus, centre, and rededicate himself to life, and he continues to do so today.

What does it mean – ‘to dial oneself up,’ how do we do this? Shift your state (of consciousness) when you’ve been knocked down…and remember always…to…breathe….

2015 was an incredibly difficult year. On the 08th  Jun he received a second blast of negative information…He had been happily married for 20 years, the last four, well, let’s just say, he should have seen it coming …Even then, despite the coldness, lack of intimacy and sharing, he still wondered later….if he was going to be missed, if he jumped at the edge of the pier….as his marriage fell apart completely and divorce proceedings had begun.

His bucket list is what saved him…he’d always wanted to join Toastmasters…and somehow, miraculously at this, his lowest point, the thought… “why not join Toastmasters?” entered his mind life). In Toastmasters he found an esprit de vivre, an enthusiasm, a joy and a new way of looking at life! For these very reasons, James credits Toastmasters as saving his life!

Reach out to positive people. Yes, 2015 was a bad year, with losses that were difficult to bear – no one wants to lose a close relative, especially someone as dear as a father. And to add to this, the utter breakdown of his marriage…regardless to say, there were some pretty desperate moments in James’ life in 2015.

Counting his blessings though, he had the support of good friends, like Kiran P. and he remembered to be grateful for everything in the world – he gave thanks for every breath, being able to hear, for absolutely everything…and these thoughts turned into hope and happiness…Is there something you would like to dial up? Breathe, be grateful, join in!….Life is like a thermostat….so…Up yours….!

Aditya Maheswaran’s “Scratch” , 2nd place finish at Toastmasters World Championship of Public Speaking.

August 20, 2015

Speech giver: Aditya Maheswaran

Organization: Toastmasters.org (International) at TM International Conference: August 13-16, 2015.

Venue: Caesar’s Palace, Las Vegas, U.S.A.

Once again, here is my mantra – the purpose of this post (Acronym: R O S E):

  1. To Retain this valuable information for posterity.
  2. To Offer inspiration to people.
  3. To Share the wisdom gleaned from motivational and inspirational speech givers at such events.
  4. To Effect positive changes in the world.

Congratulations to Aditya Maheswaran of Mumbai, India, District 41, on finishing in second place for his speech, “Scratch.”

This speech was given by Aditya Maheswaran…..called ”Scratch”….about lessons learned after buying a new car…then going out right after with the girl who made his heart sing….

Driving with Neha, in his beloved new car, he parked it at the beach where they walked together….. He looked back – what should he see?

Aghast, he saw the Man walking at the beach scratching his….brand…. new…car with a pair of skis as he walked by! Completely neglecting Neha….he forgot about her and attended to car instead, running off, not caring about her….until much, much later. Alas, the damage was done – and not just to the car!
Depressed and at home, still thinking about it, he also hurt mom as he was still upset about the car, which was hard to get over…even saying leave me alone to his mom! The next day, with a wise mechanic’s help the car – was looking new again! Once again beautiful, sleek, and elegant…..The mechanic proffered ‘a scratch stays only as long as you don’t polish it.’ Using this wisdom, knew exactly what to do! He hugged his mom. After so much effort – realizing the errors of his ways – he persisted, and called Neha…12 times! He sincerely apologized for his behaviour saying, “I’m sorry, you are my precious!”…putting to use the significant wisdom that he had gleaned only days earlier from a mechanic!

Love Works – Joel Manby – Toastmasters International speech.

May 27, 2014

Love Works…Joel Manby Keynote

Joel Manby is a professional businessman, not a professional speaker and I got the pleasure to see him speak well and sincerely at the International Toastmasters Conference held in Orlando, Florida on 15 August, 2012. (Yes I’ve been meaning to get this out to you for a while, the old saying about writers and procrastination may have some truth to it after all). However, the lessons Mr. Manby teaches, imbibes and lives are still true. Here is part of his story, which I may continue in future for brevity’s sake.

Manby was the CEO for the U.S. operations head for SAAB. He described how on Easter Sunday he received a life-changing call from his boss in Sweden. In fact, it was the situation that helped him to alter his life for the better and many can probably relate to it….The first quarter sales were down for the North American Saab operations, but Joel had attained three years of solid growth over the previous NA boss…

Despite this, Joel was ‘called into the boss’ office. Except…. this office was in Sweden! The call he got was at 7:30 am in the morning, which meant that it was 3 am in Sweden at the time of the call!

Joel had made 15 moves in 20 years and, as was expected, always showed concern for the bottom line, but when his boss tore into him in Sweden, in front of his peers, he felt humiliated, and a loss of dignity. In short it was his worst nightmare realized and he felt that it was unjustified.

Here was a Harvard business school graduate who had moved all over, working for top companies like General Motors and who always paid attention everywhere to the bottom line and yet he was getting what he felt was the worst treatment of his life!

This is when Joel’s emotional withdrawal began from within from Saab. He thought to himself that there had got to be a better way in business to care about people and profits! There had to be! He wanted to be authentic (same at home, work and spiritually).

That’s the exact moment when Jack Herschend entered his life. Manby says that he’s the best at what he does, and Jack asked Joel to be on his Board….Jack was getting older and he wanted someone to replace him in his growing business. Joel felt thankful and lucky that he was asked by Jack.

As they say, the rest is history….Since 2000, Herschend Family Entertainment has had 12 years of solid growth. Joel can also proudly say that he definitely balanced home and work life.
Joel now has a mission and he wants us to be inspired…so he asked us these questions during the international Conference held at Orlando, Florida.

What is love? Did you know that there are actually four kinds: Eros; philos; storge and agape love(s)…this according to the Greeks.
Agape is unconditional love. How you treat each other. All relationships are about agape. Joel asked: why do we exclude agape?

He never saw this in any previous of the companies he worked for. It’s not being ‘soft.’ (An inaccurate thought).

Go to the Bible. 1st Corinthians: “love is patient, kind, trusting, and unselfish, truthful, dedicated, forgiving….weddings (?)

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres… (http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Corinthians%2013:4-7).

Be unselfish – think of self less.
He developed this formula, (Employee unselfishness + Company unselfishness= and Sharing (our love, ideas, skills = it)) forward:
Think of yourself less…EU$ + CU$ = SIF$$$ (share it forward)…

I will follow this article up with more information as I may have piqued your interest now…gotta go! You’ve got enough information now to look into these great ideas for yourselves. Gotta keep you on your toes…

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joel_Manby

“Joel Manby is the current President and Chief Executive Officer of Herschend Family Entertainment, the largest family-owned theme park corporation in the United States. HFE creates, develops and operates entertainment, tourism and hospitality properties spanning 26 locations in ten states.”

http://www.joelmanby.com

Picture day on NeilShreedhar’s Blog. Lessons in HR.

April 23, 2012

Hello folks,

I thought I’d tie into the theme of this blog with some of the serene shots of the Grand Canyon which also tie in with some of the replies I’ve given to requests for pictures on this site. (NeilShreedhar’s Blog) Without further ado, I’ll let the ‘pics’ speak for themselves…..

Lesson 1: There’s clarity at the top….

There’s something about nature that just helps you think clearly, isn’t there? Here I am atop the Grand Canyon – a lifelong dream which came to reality….

Clarity at the top.

Shreedhar on Effective Business Use of Social Media….

April 9, 2012

 

Location: Sheraton Centre. Richmond Hill, Ontario, Canada.

Date and time: 7:15 am – 9:30 am. 30/11/11.

Title: Effectively Use Social Media to Grow your Personal Brand and Profile in the HR and Business Market Place.

Event: LinkedIn Presentation by Sulemaan Ahmed, Managing Director of Kinetic Cafe.

LinkedIn Tips

Here are some quick tips from Sulemaan Ahmed.

In order to get the MOST out of your LinkedIn profile, he recommends the following:

1. Upload a professional photo to the site. You want to put your best foot forward. (Your profile is seven times more likely to be accessed).

2. Create the right profile headline.

3. Write a keyword-rich summary highlighting your skills and experience to maximize SEO (Search Engine Optimization).

4. Provide status updates. This will position you as a thought-leader.

5. References do NOT have to be provided upon request.

6. Link to other sites but…ensure they are professional and be strategic. Blogs about recent books read are fine.

7. Use applications but also be careful.

8. Tailor your LinkedIn profile URL.

9. Join or Create groups in your industry.

10. Complete your profile 100%.

Other tips: Karma is important, pay it forward. People remember a good deed done. Help others.

Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day!

These tips should stand you in good stead in using your LinkedIn account efficiently and you help you grow your personal brand. Good luck!
– Nilésh (Neil) Shreedhar.

Shreedhar’s Review of Keogh’s “Delusional Disorders in the Workplace.”

April 3, 2012

Review of HR Professional’s Delusional Disorders

(Aug/ Sept 2009 edition)Unhappy Workers.

Many people may not be aware of just exactly how complex our work environments have become, but this concise article about disorders in the workplace by Dr. Thomas Keogh, featured in HR Professional – Aug/Sept 2009 edition quickly clarifies this point. 

Aptly enough it is entitled “Delusional Disorder in the Workplace.” In the order of credentials, Dr. Keogh is an occupational medicine consultant. As such he strives to improve productivity in the workplace. Once again it proves the value of the HR function, “the HR department is crucial to the management of the illness,” Dr. Keogh states.

The first part of this article takes the time to define Delusional Disorder, and then follows this with an example which illustrates how disruptive it can be to the workplace. The case study he provides in the article is of a potentially disillusioned young man, having achieved little in the way of work promotions and who is argumentive and easily offended, and difficult to work with. In the end we discover that he is diagnosed with delusional disorder. “He believed that multinational companies saw him as a threat to their prosperity and were sending him messages on the train on his way into work.”

“Delusions are false beliefs – attitudes and values not held by the general public – that persist despite evidence to the contrary.” They may occur across a wide spectrum of behaviours: in schizophrenia, bipolar disorder (manic or depressive phases), major depressive disorder, substance abuse and organic mental disorders. It becomes challenging to distinguish delusional disorders for several reasons, one of which is the accompaniment of other signs and symptoms.

Other reasons which make it a challenging disorder to deal with are because it requires a high deal of cooperation, collaboration and buy-in from all concerned parties including employee, union, manager and occupational health services, or the employee may become suspicious and withdrawn.

Dr. Keogh suggests that HR policies that are clear and concise can be effective in dealing with such disorders. As trust features so prominently in these disorders, whether or not the employee accepts or resists medical assistance, “emphatic support might be the only helpful connection this person has.”

This is important information to bring to light at this time and age, when we ourselves may come across such individuals needing our help and guidance due to a greater occurrence of mental maladies.

– Nilesh (Neil) Shreedhar.

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Google: Neil Shreedhar.

 

Shreedhar on LinkedIn.

March 31, 2012

Event: LinkedIn Presentation by Sulemaan Ahmed, Managing Director of Kinetic Cafe.

Location: Sheraton Centre.Richmond Hill, ON, Canada.

Date and time: 715am – 9:30am. 30/11/11.

Title: Effectively Use Social Media to Grow your Personal Brand and Profile in the HR and Business Market Place. (En francais au-dessous).

Business and Social Network information from LinkedIn

Here are some easy tips straight from the experts on how to use LinkedIn successfully….

1. Fill in your employment history. Keep your network up to date about past positions and professional accomplishments.

2. Add your education. LinkedIn can be a great way to re-connect with former classmates and fellow alumni.

3. Add a photograph. This helps people remember you, looks professional, and is memorable.

4. Add at least three skills. This helps you get found. Useful: keywords which represent your industry and function such as IT, marketing, healthcare, etc.

5. Create your own vanity URL and have it appear in search results. Share with colleagues and add to signatures and business cards.

En francais

1. Précisez vos antécédents de travail. Tenez votre réseau informe des postes que vous avez déjà occupes et de vos réalisations professionnelles.

2. Indiquez votre niveau de scolarité. Identifiez votre collège our votre université. LinkedIn peut vous aider a renouer avec vos anciens condisciples ea a les rencontrer.

3. Ajoutez une photo. Aidez les gens a se souvenir de vous en ajoutant une photo de qualité professionnelle a votre profil. On n’oublie jamais un visage.

4. Indiquez au moins trois domaines de compétence. Pour faciliter les recherches, entrez des mots clés reliés a votre industrie et a votre poste, par ex. TI, marketing, soins de sante, etc.

5. Personnalisez votre URL. Personnalisez l’adresse URL de votre profil qui apparait dans les résultats de recherche. Partagez-la avec vos collègue, joignez-la a votre signature et a vos cartes de visite.

Source:

www.linkedin.com/profile.

– Nilesh (Neil) Shreedhar.

Daily? humour from the workplace.

March 28, 2012

Who – me?…and computers….Just who or what is the problem here?! 

One of our computer systems was down, so I asked a colleague (call her Gracie) ….”Are you having difficulties as well?” She replied…”No, it’s just you! “I laughed, getting the joke; she added softly, “you’re probably just working too hard.” I added, “I’m probably working it (the computer) too hard.” (We both giggled).


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