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It’s Not About You! Vegas gems from TM International Conference.

September 2, 2015

Here is another of the wealth of ideas gleaned from the recent Vegas convention I attended (I still have many more pieces of writing I want to post!)

Well you know the format…if you’ve been following….Here it is once again, in case this is a ‘one-off’ for you and you happen to have just ‘dropped in,’ so to speak. (No hyphens). J

Organization: (International) at TM International Conference: August 13-16, 2015.

Patrick Hammond, Toastmasters, Las Vegas Championship Entry Speech.

Venue: Caesar’s Palace, Las Vegas, U.S.A.

Purpose of this post (Acronym: R O S E):

  1. To Retain this valuable information for posterity.
  2. To Offer inspiration to people.
  3. To Share the wisdom gleaned from motivational and inspirational speech givers at such events.
  4. To Effect positive changes in the world.


It’s not about you

Patrick Hammond.

A thief stole sentimental things from his home….Patrick, a youth leader learned from his youth group that such thieves, due to the way they operate, are called ‘flockers,’ –  a new word for Patrick, juvenile care worker. ‘Think about the effect on those you are connected to,’ he said….
He spoke of broken promises; of his own mother who had colon cancer. His brother had broken the law. Their mother was now on her death bed, but was hanging on. The possibility of mother and incarcerated brother being able to speak was remote, but she wanted to hang on only to speak to this son….

Patrick, asked his juvenile kids the important question, ‘why did she hang on before she passed?’

Practically shouting at us in a dramatic finish to his speech, (as he must have with those under his care). No! not just to have closure with the son – but the more important lesson here was that your actions have serious consequences -on those you love….and… whether they can live or even die… in peace! It’s not about you!

In the end – literally at the very end in the case of his mother’s life – it’s not about you!  It’s more about the effect you have on the people in your life.

The story was an excellent instructional tool for kids… no… for us all, actually….worth thinking about!

That’s today’s post folks!

Best regards,

Nilesh Shreedhar


Shreedhar on Clemmer’s “Wallow, Follow or Lead” – HR Professional, Aug/Sept 2009.

April 7, 2012


Review of “Wallow, Follow or Lead” HR Professional, Aug/Sept 2009

 According to Jim Clemmer, keynote speaker, workshop leader and management team developer on practical leadership, workers fall into one of three easy to recall categories.

He makes the distinction that leaders come in all shapes and sizes, and that some of the people we naturally think of as leaders, because of their titles, aren’t necessarily leaders in the real sense. This is because quite often some of the best leaders “don’t have formal leadership authority.” In fact, “leadership ability shines clearest when facing turbulence, adversity or change,” and it is during those times that we “wallow, follow or lead.”

Briefly then, wallowers take a situation and make it worse by focusing on the negative elements; typically they point fingers, remember the way things used to be, and live in a world of hurt and worry. Unfortunately they believe most people are bad and can’t be trusted. They focus on weaknesses and gaps and often play the victim. Here are your conspiracy theorists who talk of being gotten by them and complain of never being listened to… who would?

On the other hand, followers are sceptics who may require some direction. They are hopeful, and analytical, but need assistance to understand what happened and what to do about it. However, with the right encouragement they often can step up to the plate; under the wrong influences, they will start down “the slippery slope of cynical pessimism” and wallowing.

It is often said that there are groups at work, crucial to influence positively, like the swing vote in an election, or the undecided kids at school who flourish under the right conditions but who flounder academically when they’re with the wrong crowd. So it is with the workplace as well.

Leaders take initiative and make a situation better by doing what they can with what they have, or what is available to them. Words to describe effective leaders are: able to live in ambiguity, explorative (of options), living in the moment, and preparing for the future. They are self-aware and self-disciplined and continually improving. Unlike the wallowers, “they believe that most people are good and trustworthy, until proven otherwise and focus on reinforcing and leveraging their strengths. They praise and encourage others to higher performance…and face tough situations squarely” (while) focussing on the positive.

Mr. Clemmer provides other excellent adjectives and characteristics to describe effective leaders, but the essential ones are described above. On a more philosophical but potentially life-altering note, he states that “the choices we make are the glasses we put on to view our situation…these choices create our reality”

For deeper insights, read the article; it will be time well spent! Try this link, or Google (most of) the title above if necessary:

– Nilésh (Neil) Shreedhar.; or Google: Neil Shreedhar.

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