Posts Tagged ‘enlarging others’

Profound lesson learned from Darren Lacroix. (And Jim Rohn)

August 24, 2015

Speech giver: Darren Lacroix. (Toastmasters speaker, comedian, motivational speaker and general all-round super-hero good guy).

Organization: (International) at TM International Conference: August 13-16, 2015.

Venue: Caesar’s Palace, Las Vegas, U.S.A.

Purpose of this post (Acronym: R O S E):

  1. To Retain this valuable information for posterity.
  2. To Offer inspiration to people.
  3. To Share the wisdom gleaned from motivational and inspirational speech givers at such events.
  4. To Effect positive changes in the world.

This short speech (I think I actually may have shortened it to its essence), was given by Darren Lacroix, Key note speaker at Caesar’s Palace during the just completed International Toastmasters Conference in Las Vegas, U.S.A. I’m not even sure that it had a title, or if, in giving you the title, due to its depth, conciseness and clarity, would just give away the purpose of this post! He in turn, learned the lesson from Jim Rohn….

Darren is a popular motivational speaker in his own right ( and his information is at the same time profound as it is inspirational in that it allows people to move ahead due to its clarity, purpose and wisdom.

Anyhow, this is what I learned at the above venue from Darren Lacroix (think about it for a minute or two):

You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.

Now that should cause you to think about who you think about, why you think the way you do, and even more importantly, why you are not achieving what you want to in life! Now that’s worth thinking about! Maybe even about those ’crabs’ in the bucket, that won’t let you out for whatever reasons, including insecurities of their own.

Maybe you should reconsider who you would like to spend most of your time with. In my view, this includes the books (‘friends’) you read, and the social media interactions (mine include Twitter, Facebook, and WordPress) that you ‘associate’ with. These can be wholly positive or detrimental to your future put in the above light.

Why not make wiser choices about how and with whom you spend your valuable time? Choose carefully!

Best wishes,

Nilesh Shreedhar.

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Learning from Toastmasters(.org).

January 30, 2015

What did I get from Toastmasters? Nothing; did I get to meet new, interesting and exciting people? Nope! Did I get to hear workshops worth paying hundreds of dollars for in terms of life experience and know-how? Nah! Did I learn anything, or am I now able to articulate myself in a clearer and more concise to-the-point manner? Who are you kidding?! I was plenty able to artwhatulate before! Huh? I mean I could really gab in front of a crowd in a semi-coherent manner!

Those of you who actually  are Toastmasters know me as someone who has his own unique way of communicating….and so it is here….

Yes! Toastmasters does all of those things and I am very proud to be an alumni with possibility of rejoining at any time. I lead a busy life and TM has enhanced that lifestyle as I feel I bring joy to others in being able to tell my ‘motivational stories’ to them.

I told one today (to a Rogers employee) and I might just have started her on the road to hand-gliding! It’s fun to be able to add a little excitement to people’s lives and TM is a big part of being able to to that! If this isn’t a huge endorsement for TM, then I don’t really know what is: it’s sincere and from the heart, ‘cuz you know, I’ve been told ‘I wear my heart on my sleeve…..’ All the best with TM, where leaders are made – it could change your life! I mean for the better – of course! LOL.Happy Toastmasting! (Can you say that? Well, I just did, call it poetic license…).

Best regards,

Shreedhar on Maxwell’s Leadership Key #8 – Enlarging Others

March 4, 2012

Review of Maxwell’s Leadership Keys: #8 – Enlarging Others


He’s a New York Times Bestselling management-guru and in “The 17 Essential Qualities of a Team Player” John C. Maxwell writes about being relational, or, as he puts it at the preface of the chapter, quoting Rabbi Harold Kushner: “The purpose of life is not to win. The purpose of life is to grow and to share. When you come to look back on all that you have done in life, you will get more satisfaction from the pleasure you have brought to other people’s lives than you will from the times that you outdid and defeated them.”

He relates Sir William Wallace of Scotland’s story. He dared to oppose King Edward I of England in 1313 (Maxwell, 2002, p.65).” In Braveheart, the movie, William was actually portrayed as a daring and determined fighter who valued freedom above all else. As second born, he had been groomed to enter the clergy and developed a resentment of the English after his father was killed and his mother was forced to live in exile. His decision to become a fighter came after a group of Englishmen tried to bully him and by his early twenties he was considered a skilled warrior.

His early ideological foundation was based on the high value he placed on freedom and allowed him to inspire his countrymen: He “had an unusual ability. He drew the common people of Scotland to him, he made them believe in the cause of freedom, and he inspired and equipped them to fight the professional war machine of England ((Maxwell, 2002, p. 65).”

His life was ultimately sacrificed in the battle against the English, and he was brutally executed in a manner worse than depicted in the movie, but his spirit lived on (to this day, 700 or so years later), so much so that another man, Robert Bruce, a nobleman inspired by his example, claimed the throne of Scotland the following year rousing both nobility and peasants to win Scotland its independence in 1314.

As above, here is what team players who enlarge others do: they value their teammates, value what their teammates value, add value to their teammates, and make themselves more valuable. 

In valuing their teammates; Maxwell notes how Charles Schwab once observed, “I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism ((Maxwell, 2002, p. 6).”

Maxwell illustrates how enlargers value what their teammates value by pointing out how such people listen to what their teammates talk about and understand what they spend their money on. This knowledge, along with a desire to relate to their fellow players creates a strong bond between teammates.

The previous characteristic allows an enlarger the perspective in order to assist others in improving their abilities and attitudes and add value to their teammates. Looking for the gifts, talents and uniqueness in each individual, he helps them increase these abilities to the benefit of the entire team allowing them to get to a whole new level.

Finally enlargers make themselves more valuable by working at it and in doing so they are able to make others better too. A great player such as Karl Malone is assisted by a great passer like all-time assist leader John Stockton. Maxwell advises that to make others better be better yourself. 

Maxwell’s final commentary on the above views on enlargers is particularly instructive as he empathizes that it is not always easy to be such a person; it takes a person who is self-assured and unafraid of giving – not one who believes that enlarging others somehow hurts one and one’s opportunities for success. 

If one is able to overcome this hurdle, he has a few other interesting pointers to increase your abilities in this important area in the chapter which you might read to find out….

Nilesh (Neil)Shreedhar.

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