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Inner self talk is critical to success in life.

December 2, 2015

Finding your voice.

Past voices….

As usual, Toastmasters never ceases to inspire….

Using a style of writing that I’ve used before, and tying in to my ending, I will tell you where I am headed with this piece of writing….to My goals (please use this as a work-through (or ‘workshop’) to achieve whatever happen to be YOUR goals! This is meant to INSPIRE YOU! LOL). I want to share how important self-talk can be to success in life….

I promise to get you there reasonably quickly via past voices (negative ones of course) that my Toastmaster mentor Dawna (short form To-rmentor? No, I digress)…I will keep her last name private, but she does exist and has inspired many) was able to work through…given her near-death experience. Yes, near-death. Don’t wait for life to take you there before you take life where you want to go!

Come, now let us work through this together. Dawna’s Toastmaster workshop (Jan 2015) took us through a time long ago in her life, which still resonated slightly in her mind. We could see that she still had a little bit more work to do (as far as positive self-talk was concerned).

Years back, it was the teacher’s voice (Miller) that spoke to her and compared her negatively to her sister, older to her, and better at many things. This left her in a wake of comparisons made by other teachers who invariably knew her sister and made negative inferences too….

Lesson: ignore the negative voices in life (the ones that don’t fit in with a healthy self-image of yourself). For your benefit, and to personalize this story a bit more, here is an excerpt from the handout that Dawna provided us, so you get the point…idea is to work through your negative voices, so put this piece into practice, will ya! Do this by answering italicized questions….or absorbing the presented information to improve your thinking. Here are the excerpts (italicized):

My Mr. Miller is….

‘Certainly not as good as your sister are you?’  (This had a huge impact on Dawna’s life…  She gave up – she quit! Lesson: don’t listen to negative voices, DON’T QUIT! EV-ER! This is when you go Lalalalala in your head! As a child, or as an adult. Don’t listen! LOL.

In retrospect, what should Dawna (read ‘this could be any one of us, but we will use Dawna as our guinea-pig test person as per her workshop) have done differently? (Folks, this is where you are supposed to THINK and come up with some positive solutions – for the rusty, just substitute any positive affirmation)

‘It’s a product of what I did!  It’s my best work ever!’  Remember, whatever you have created (at school, work, or play), is PERSONAL expression and it is NOT – NOT to be compared with others….even (or especially) when you are a teacher (read mentor, parent, older respected sibling et al).

My nurse Amanda is…I should explain; nurse Amanda was the one who Dawna first heard say ‘we didn’t think you would survive!’ when Dawna ended up in the hospital due to serious stress related conditions. The italicized portion below will explain how she internalized this statement. (Backdrop: Shakespeare – remember, ‘nothing is good or bad, thinking makes it so!’)

Dawna: through self-induced stress…. She was barely conscious.  Stressed.  Exhausted. She spent three weeks in a hospital!  Nurse Amanda: ‘Dawna, we didn’t think you would survive!’

So…Dawna felt she was not supposed to be here! (Yes – she meant on earth)… She stopped having fun.  It was a ‘Wow’ experience – in a very negative way!

My Jennifer is…again, this bears explanation…in Dawna’s workshop, Jennifer was a good buddy and best friend who helped her realize the positives in life; she offered Dawna heart-felt and sincere encouragement and helped her heal from her negative thinking and cloudy past.

My cheer-leading team: Who is yours? For example, one of mine is: Shelley U., David L., and Isabelle H.  They are my encouragers and I probably owe them a debt of gratitude. Not probably, I do. Thank the people that believe and encourage you….

Lesson:

Shakespeare:

‘ Nothing is good or bad… thinking makes it so….’

Now, as per Dawna’s workshop….we are going back and reliving those moments in life, (we all have them) using a NEW perspective and the introspective that Dawna provided us:

My future voices…

If I could go back to Mr. Miller I would….  Have the wisdom I now have, with conviction….

I now choose to tell myself….  ‘Nothing is good or bad thinking makes it so.’

If I could go back to my nurse Amanda I would….

Use more positive affirmations, and change the (negative) messages in my head. I’d meditate, be more healthy, associate with positive people, stay healthy, and have more purpose in life.  Live a renewed life as a second chance….for living in greater abundance!

I now choose to tell myself….my affirmations….

‘Nothing is good or bad thinking makes it so.’

If I could go back to my Jennifer I would

Thank her!

Realize ‘they’ (the negative ones) don’t know me….  hence they Gotta be wrong.

Watch serials Buddha and Suits. (I love them!)

My leadership voice…

I need to tell Trish P that she is quick and decisive.

I need to tell Kalida….thank you!

I need to tell Agee….hey! Thanks for being you!

Lesson:

Inner self talk is crucial to success in life.

BIG take-away from this workshop: How to turn negative talk into something positive.

PEOPLE, your self-talk is really important! It can ultimately be damaging or life-enhancing. At least be a good ‘Buddhist’ and ‘take the middle road’ and don’t be too hard on yourselves. (Talk out your negatives out loud to see if they sound ‘right’ or completely off the wall!)

In sum, Donna was shy and timid….  Her sister was an athletic and an academic star.  Jen was a best friend and star athlete.  Donna was part of a big family of children who were special from top to bottom yet Donna felt stuck in the middle, forgotten and unimportant.  Birth order can be determinative of how you feel – if you let it! Donna felt like someone stuck in the middle.

To overcome her difficulties though, she changed her mind set and the way she talked to herself….

Here’s one final positive thought for us to all take away…. to be more mindful of, and kinder and gentler with ourselves… what Donna learned from a positive role model, mentor and good friend….

Her friends said that though she was not the end pieces in her large family of siblings…she was the peanut butter…. the jam that made the whole sandwich sweet! (Aww!’ So sweet! No pun intended.)

So be good to yourself, and everyone else will too! We can be our own worst enemies, or our own best friends. It just takes a mental adjustment! You know….

Inner Self-talk can be critical to success in life!

Nilesh Shreedhar.

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Jeffley’s “Dial it Up!” (to Life).

August 21, 2015

Speech giver: James Jeffley

Organization: Toastmasters.org (International) at TM International Conference: August 13-16, 2015.

Venue: Caesar’s Palace, Las Vegas, U.S.A.

Purpose of this post (Acronym: R O S E):

  1. To Retain this valuable information for posterity.
  2. To Offer inspiration to people.
  3. To Share the wisdom gleaned from motivational and inspirational speech givers at such events.
  4. To Effect positive changes in the world.

This speech (“Up Yours!”) was given by James Jeffley, speech contest participant at Caesar’s Palace during the just completed International Toastmasters Conference in Las Vegas, U.S.A.

Dial it up. James Jeffley. Life is like a thermostat….up yours. Dial up your thermostat. Find Peace and greater consciousness. Up yourself. There are tools to dial oneself up….

On the 18th Mar 2015, he was talking to his sister who called. What’s up? Then came the cold, hard facts….dad passed….He fell to the ground….

Even as minister, sometimes he needs help too….having learned through difficult experiences the purpose of his speech was to provide some tools. He himself was able to dial himself up…refocus, centre, and rededicate himself to life, and he continues to do so today.

What does it mean – ‘to dial oneself up,’ how do we do this? Shift your state (of consciousness) when you’ve been knocked down…and remember always…to…breathe….

2015 was an incredibly difficult year. On the 08th  Jun he received a second blast of negative information…He had been happily married for 20 years, the last four, well, let’s just say, he should have seen it coming …Even then, despite the coldness, lack of intimacy and sharing, he still wondered later….if he was going to be missed, if he jumped at the edge of the pier….as his marriage fell apart completely and divorce proceedings had begun.

His bucket list is what saved him…he’d always wanted to join Toastmasters…and somehow, miraculously at this, his lowest point, the thought… “why not join Toastmasters?” entered his mind life). In Toastmasters he found an esprit de vivre, an enthusiasm, a joy and a new way of looking at life! For these very reasons, James credits Toastmasters as saving his life!

Reach out to positive people. Yes, 2015 was a bad year, with losses that were difficult to bear – no one wants to lose a close relative, especially someone as dear as a father. And to add to this, the utter breakdown of his marriage…regardless to say, there were some pretty desperate moments in James’ life in 2015.

Counting his blessings though, he had the support of good friends, like Kiran P. and he remembered to be grateful for everything in the world – he gave thanks for every breath, being able to hear, for absolutely everything…and these thoughts turned into hope and happiness…Is there something you would like to dial up? Breathe, be grateful, join in!….Life is like a thermostat….so…Up yours….!

How to Improve Relationships – at work and at home.

January 29, 2015

Here are some useful Relationship Tips that I have gleaned from attending numerous seminars and workshops over the years….I hope you find them as useful as I do:

  1. Be sincere. There’s nothing that mends relationships better than being sincere…..
  2. Have faith. This goes hand in hand with the above. It takes time to change. The only real change is gradual. It is often so subtle that one doesn’t even realize it; until one actually sits down and reflects on journals of past days. You have grown by leaps and bounds since you were a toddler. In that time frame now do you see that?
  3. Mind the language. Often if we pay attention to language we can win our point with tact and diplomacy. Words like ‘manipulative’ are hurtful and loaded. No one wants to think of themselves that way and it creates walls around discussion. The person is still thinking about what you meant and isn’t really listening to what you say any more…what? J
  4. Listen to one another. A sure way to get on each other’s good side and improve relations is to show good reflective listening skills. So you mean…(’this’ – whatever it is). Then you follow through on whatever action is entailed on improving the relationship from your end!
  5. Assume positive intent. Nothing rankles with people worse than when you assume the worst of them. They then try even harder to meet your already low expectations! Don’t give them the chance! (This is Pepsi Co’s CEO’s advice – straight from her dad).
  6. Talk nice. Leave a person’s dignity intact. After a huge fall from grace, iIt may be the only shred he or she has left. So be gentle with one another…we’re all God’s children (and some of us have long memories!).
  7. Take ownership of your share of the problem. With a proper analysis you should be able to determine how things ended up this way….. Now you have the tools and can take ownership of your share of the problem (without beating it to death) and ensure that similar mistakes aren’t made in future. Then the road is made better for all in the process if someone is down, but not out!
  8. Remember that ‘this too shall pass.’ All of life’s mishaps are just passing phases. If this is kept in mind, true wisdom  is gained…( the “law of impermanence” – ‘anicca’ – the ‘Buddha’)

Please share this with one another – so that we are all on the same page…we live in a small global village. Nothing would make me happier than if we all got along nicely!

Thank you and best regards,

Nilesh Shreedhar.

https://neilshreedhar.wordpress.com

http://neilshreedhar.wix.com/goodenergy

Dare to be Different; on Life, Lexus and Dell.

May 12, 2014

 

Reflective Journal #4

Differentiation

 

Prepared by:    Neil Shreedhar

Due Date:        Jun 02, 2007

 

Instructor:       Professor Mark Burgess

 

Course:            GBA 602 ­­       Marketing Management  

 

Differentiation

 

It is true that product differentiation is essential to the branding process. In choosing to differentiate a product, a marketer has the choice of form, features, performance quality, conformance quality, durability, reliability, reparability, and style. What follows are examples of currently produced products that have been differentiated and branded for each of these design parameters, a brief analysis and discussion of the example.

 

Definitions, examples and brief discussion of above marketing terms.

Conformance quality. Buyers expect the degree to which all the produced units are identical and meet the promised specifications to be high.

Example: Toyota’s are manufactured to stringent standards. Here is a mass produced item that practically revolutionized the car world. At one point in time it was difficult to get cars to start in cold winter weather, but now that Japanese automakers have resolved this problem, or perhaps with higher car standards have initiated the resolution to the problem, thankfully, it has become a non-issue.

According to ‘Mastering the quality staircase,’ Conformance, reliability, performance, and customization are the steps to climb on the way up to achieving competitive edge (Kim et al, 2007, p.1). In a step-by-step progression in order for its workers to understand the importance of quality analysis and problem-solving in the making of its car:

Toyota Motors trains its workers in these methods (Step one of the progression) for four months before they start to work (Kim et al, 2007, p.1).

No wonder they excel and garner a loyal customer following!

Durability is a measure of the product’s expected operating life under natural or stressful conditions, and is a valued attribute for certain products.

Example: Kenmore appliances. Sears has made an enviable reputation with the durability and the service attention that it gives to its appliances. It is evident that this reputation has also endured over the years since Sears has been selling appliances such as refrigerators since about 1910 (Sears Archives, 2007, p.1)![1].

Reliability. Buyers normally will pay a premium for more reliable products. Reliability is a measure of the probability that a product will not malfunction or fail within a specified period.

Example: Dell is another company known both for its reliable computer products and its ability to service these items:

Dell, EMachines, and IBM stand out on most reliability measures, while HP and Compaq often lag their peers. We’re treating HP and Compaq as separate brands (PC World, 2007, p.1)

 

  1. This is a measure of the ease of fixing a product when it malfunctions or fails.

Example: Microsoft. Despite all the woes that we seem to experience due to patches that have to be applied to prevent viruses from entering our computer systems, I am amazed at the ability that Microsoft has demonstrated to be able to resolve the issues of potentially millions of computer users. This is a phenomenal achievement when it is put into perspective.

Style describes the product’s look and feel to the buyer. Car buyers pay a premium for Jaguars because of their extraordinary look. Aesthetics play a key role….(Kotler & Keller, 2006, p.377).

Personally, I prefer a Lexus, and associate this car with esthetic beauty and class.

Example – Lexus:

 

Lexus has become synonymous with luxury since its introduction in 1989. By offering some of the finest quality luxury vehicles and providing benchmark customer service, Lexus has become the top-selling luxury nameplate in the United States for six years in a row. Lexus and its 217 dealers have repeatedly achieved high honors for both the products they sell and the customer service they provide as rated by the independent research firm of J.D. Power and Associates (FT Business of Luxury Summit, p.1).

The ‘style statistics’ seem to speak for themselves! Wow!

Conclusion

 

In sum, “to be branded, products must be differentiated. Physical products vary in their potential for differentiation. At one extreme… (there are)…products…that allow little variation…At the other extreme are products capable of high differentiation, such as automobiles” (Kotler & Keller, 2006, p. 376). This implies that in order for the consumer to keep clear which product he wishes to buy, and for what reason he wishes to buy it, it is important from a brand recall perspective that marketers learn to differentiate their products, no matter how small the differences, in order to be successful marketers.

 

BIBLIOGRAPHY

 

Kim, K.Y., Miller, J.G. & Heineke, J. (1997). Mastering the quality staircase, step by step. Business Horizons. Retrieved on May 30, 2007 at 8:13 pm from http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1038/is_n1_v40/ai_19369681

 

Kotler, P., & Keller, K.L. (2006). Marketing Management (12th ed.).  New Delhi:  Prentice-Hall of India Private Limited.

 

FT Business of Luxury Summit. (2006). The Rationalization of Luxury – New Business Models, New Strategies. Retrieved on May 30, 2007 at 8:38 pm from http://www.ftbusinessofluxury.com/2006/Sponsors.asp?m_pid=0&m_nid=5805 – 37k –

 

PC World (2003).  Reliability and Service Report Card http://www.pcworld.com/article/id,112915-page,8/article.html

 

Sears Archives. Retrieved on May 30, 2007 at 7:59 pm from  http://www.searsarchives.com/products/questions/appliances/kenmore_refrigerator.htm

 

[1]Retrieved on May 30, 2007 at 7:59 pm from  http://www.searsarchives.com/products/questions/appliances/kenmore_refrigerator.htm

Picture day on NeilShreedhar’s Blog. Lessons in HR.

April 23, 2012

Hello folks,

I thought I’d tie into the theme of this blog with some of the serene shots of the Grand Canyon which also tie in with some of the replies I’ve given to requests for pictures on this site. (NeilShreedhar’s Blog) Without further ado, I’ll let the ‘pics’ speak for themselves…..

Lesson 1: There’s clarity at the top….

There’s something about nature that just helps you think clearly, isn’t there? Here I am atop the Grand Canyon – a lifelong dream which came to reality….

Clarity at the top.

Shreedhar on Dowdell and the “Confidence Revolution.”

March 26, 2012

Never Give UP!

Debra Dowdell… Confidence Revolution.Event: Toastmasters Fall Conference.

Time: 1:45 pm to 2:30 pm.

Date: 26 Nov 2011.

Location: London Convention Centre. (Ontario). Workshop #3

 

Confidence Revolution

(Confidence, Credibility, Clarity)

This empowering Toastmasters workshop (www.toastmasters.org) was about having the confidence to achieve any goal that you felt worthy of achievement.

Debra encapsulated the key element to her workshop in this grand thought:

“You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.”

-Trina Paulus. ”

You will note these pair of bookend quotes at the start and end of the summary of the above workshop. That is because the key to this and any workshop is to ACT upon the information and Debra Dowdell, a charming and sweet self-made entrepreneur clarified this for us at the outset of her workshop…. Point taken D!

Ms. Dowdell gave a lively and fun presentation and emphasized it with her PowerPoint slides.

Revolution: a fundamental change in the way of thinking about or visualizing something. It results in a change in your paradigm. This bears reflection. Just one idea can better someone’s life.

Einstein: insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.

Brief background…. Ms. Dowdell explained her humble beginnings in a life of poverty; as her father had been an alcoholic so she was raised by her single mother.  She has been working from a very young age and so learned life’s lesson very quickly, in total having worked for 14 years.

Those of us who came to the workshop were made to realize that we weren’t there just to take another set of notes: we’re not here for INFORMATION, but TRANSFORMATION.

How? Follow your passion and SILENCE! your fears.

Here’s what students have to go through in this day and age, if you can imagine it!

Dowdell then spoke of a scenario in which high school students go through speed interview process which involves being given a problem to solve, and within ten minutes they are expected to come up with a solution on which the hiring decision is based. In other words, they must come up with a winning solution within minutes! Talk about intense pressure!

In the scenario the students must focus on three C’s: Clear communication doing so in a Credible, and Confident manner.

Dowdell used the above example to put things into perspective for us: we may think things are challenging, but they are even more challenging for the younger generation!

Fears: we must confront our fears: involving Failure, Success, Judgement and Change.

Tony Robbins – consider:  how to  live today… to create a tomorrow you are committed to?

Stephen Covey….there is a huge difference in meaning between greatness and mediocrity…. As Moon is to Sun.

Finding the Key to Unlock your success….

Dowdell’s Prescription. Three steps to finding your greatness: Confidence, Credibility and Clarity.

1A. You can grow your confidence by finding what is your ‘why’ in life. Power into that every day and access it from a deep and passionate place. Your why is what gets you up in the morning and gives you joy. It is the area from which you access your authenticity, your passion and build trust and excellence.

1B. Write it down. With all the seminars and workshops, and media we are subject to Information Overload very quickly. If you write it down (i.e., your goal), you are more likely to look at it and succeed.

1C. Accountability. Be careful to find supportive people and build such a team around you that will propel you forward in life and to your goals. Core activities will get you to your A+.

2 A. Create Power and Energy. Build credibility. Find a ‘tribe’. People who resonate with you. This creates credibility. It is not necessarily composed of a wide-net. It could simply be a small circle of friends, colleagues or other supporters. They should be easily drawn to you.

2 B. Finding clarity. It is a gift to give. Doing so adds Value. Build strength, delegate weaknesses. Perfect your game, focus and enjoy the results…the circle continues and builds more credibility. Power and energy, or momentum is created in this step.

3 Finding clarity…. there is value in clear messages. Actions create – clarity – a powerful message – creating your Brand – you! Find out your who, what, where, how and… when? Now! She notes that it is a gift to give….so be INTENTIONAL. Make each act count: is each act moving you forward towards your ultimate goal? Become a Me worth knowing…someone you would want to know…through acts done daily anyway! Are you the Technical Creative solutions planner? Perhaps you are known as a lover of baked goodies, a nurturer, or a great listener? Send clear messages, solutions get results – are your day to day activities Action – clarity – powerful message!

Final note. Debra reiterated:

“You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” -Trina Paulus. “There’s one teaching that my mother passed onto me…so…“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams….” – Thurow.

True – you may not have attended the above workshop, however, you have it in you to make the changes you need to in order to live the life you wish to live. The above material was used with permission and highlights the skills, qualities and steps needed to move forward to your best life…As we are all ‘works in progress’….

Good luck and happy progressive living!

–          Nilesh (Neil) Shreedhar.

For a copy of this presentation, view:

www.TheConfidenceRevolution.com


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